Homemaking, Life

Where the Heart Is

Philippians 2:4 says, “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” (ESV)  But, how does that apply to caring for a home?  In Designing a Lifestyle that Pleases God, Lisa Tatlock says “A final aspect to consider when creating a warm and welcoming home is to consider the preferences of others.” (pg. 215) 


Because the majority of the household chores typically fall to the wife/mom, we can get a little possessive about how they are done.  We want certain tasks done our way, according to our particular likes, dislikes, and preferences.  And, while those things do need to be considered for a plan to work effectively, we cannot forget to consider what other family members may need, or prefer so that it works for everyone in the home.  Shifting our focus off of ourselves, and on to the needs, wants, and preferences of our family and guests, does not change what must be done.  But, it just might change our attitude while doing it….


When we look at the baskets of dirty laundry, the crumbs on the floor, and the pile of dishes in the sink, do we sigh, and whine, and complain about all we have to do, and about how difficult our lot in life is?  Do your husband, or your children constantly see a whiney discontent wife and mom?  Or, do they see a joyful, shining light?

“Do all things without grumbling or questioning, that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world.” Philippians 2:14-15


As our children watch, and work alongside us, what are we teaching them (both by our words, and our example)?  Are they learning to “work heartily, as for the Lord”?  Or do we give it a half-hearted “effort” and call it good, teaching them to do the same?  Housework can be a thankless job…unless we remember for Whom we are doing it:

“Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.” Colossians 3:23-24


I love what Martha Peace says in her book, Damsels in Distress:

“The everyday ordinary Christian life is one of great joy and anticipation in what God is doing in us and through us to accomplish His grand design for His creation.  It is an incredibly humbling privilege to serve Him in any way that He chooses.”  (pg. , Damsels in Distress)


Very few things in this life may seem more ordinary than tasks of washing dishes, folding laundry, mopping floors, and scrubbing toilets.  But, even in the midst of those “everyday” tasks, is your life one that is marked by great joy and anticipation? 


Our household chores are a part of how God is working in us to accomplish His grand design!  Tedious though they may seem, these chores, in this home, for this family is how God has chosen for us to serve Him today.  It is so easy to complain!  But, when we choose to see the eternal value to what we are doing – and intentionally choose to serve God by serving our families, in obedience to God’s Word – there can be joy – dare I say it, even enjoyment – in creating a warm and welcoming place of refuge, retreat, and rest for our family!


But, how?

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  1. Amen to your thoughts!!! Can’t wait to hear how:)

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